The Best Valentine’s Gift Ever

Written By: Dr. Steve Whitaker, Head of School


There is no earthly relationship that is more important than Christian marriage. Strong marriages produce better children. Healthy marriages build better communities. God-honoring marriages advance the cause of Christ.

One of the best gifts you can give your “valentine” is a sincere prayer for a stronger marriage. Through prayer we acknowledge our own limitations, we understand that we can forgive because we’ve been forgiven (Colossians 3:12-14), and we purposefully work to build up our spouse (I Thessalonians 5:11).

Scotty Smith wrote a prayer that I want to share with you this week. Find a quiet place before your Valentine’s date night and pray this prayer. Then, share it with your spouse. It may be the best gift you’ve ever given to him or her.

Dear Heavenly Father, failure to pray for and nourish our marriages is like failing to drink water, get sleep, or breathe air. The outcome is predictable and not pretty. There’s no other relationship on earth with greater power to expose our brokenness and reveal your grace, tap into our longings and frustrate us beyond measure, all at the same time. And there’s no other relationship, like marriage, that Satan is more determined to crash and burn.

So we come to you today, interceding for marriages—friend’s and ours. Father, forgive us for ever thinking that there was only one person in the history of the world we were “supposed” to marry. No marriage can sustain that illusion. And forgive us for ever thinking that if we’d married the “right” person, it’d be enough. No marriage can carry that burden.

You have made us for yourself, Father; and our deepest, most powerful, and most insatiable longings for relationship can only be met in you—not in any human being. So our prayer is simple and essential. Once again, Father, inundate our hearts and marriages with the only love that is better than life, the only love that will never let go of us, the only love that is enough—your lavish and liberating love for us in Jesus.

Precisely because we are “chosen, holy, and dearly loved” by you, fill our hearts and marriages with your “compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.” Free us to forbear with each other, and forgive each other, as you so generously relate to us in Jesus. Until the day you take one of us home, help us to encourage one another and build each other up. Help us to outdo one another in kindness. We pray this prayer in the wonderful, merciful and mighty name of Jesus, Amen.

Have a wonderful weekend and a Happy Valentine’s Day!

Steve D. Whitaker, Ph. D.
Head of School