What Your Daughter Needs To Know

Written By: Dr. Steve Whitaker, Head of School


Our children are being sent all the wrong messages, especially our daughters. Do this and you’ll be accepted. Hang out with that group and you’ll be happy. Say these things and you’ll be cool. Wear this size dress and they’ll think you’re beautiful. Drive this and you’ll be respected.

The quest to measure up and the eagerness to belong leaves many young women hopelessly lost. The suicide rate among adolescent females has quadrupled since 1994 and is now the second leading cause of death. There is likely a strong correlation between the social media craze that increasingly objectifies girls and the war that is raging in the hearts and minds of our daughters.

Andrew Peterson says, “When the voices in your mind are anything but kind, and you can’t believe that your father knows best . . . remember, I love you just the way that you are, I love the way He made your precious heart.” Your daughter, and mine, need to know that they are unconditionally loved by their earthly father and their Heavenly Father – we need to speak these words to them as often as possible.

Last night I called Amanda (my sweet daughter) to the family room, held her hand, as we watched the attached video. We both got a little teary. I gave her a kiss on the cheek and told her that I loved her – that was a moment to treasure!

It’s simple and it’s powerful. It’s the most important thing you will do today. Watch the video below. Listen to the song and let it speak to you first. Then call your daughter and ask her to sit beside you on the couch while you watch it together. Dad, your daughter needs to know that you love her – please don’t miss this opportunity. Tell her today.



Steve D. Whitaker, Ph.D.
Head of School